If you’ve been with your husband, fiancé or boyfriend for a while, you may have noticed that he is quite vocal about some things (e.g., sports), but perhaps quite muted about others (e.g., your relationship). Not that sports are not important — believe me, they are — but when it comes to critical relationship questions, many women ask, “What is he really thinking?” The silence can be frustrating, especially with your relationship on the line.
“I wish I knew what my man really thinks about… (blank),” many women say. With apologies to Taylor Swift, there are a number of important blank spaces that women want addressed with honest answers about what men truly think.
For this column, I asked men via Twitter (@thosecrazymen) and Whisper this question: “What do you secretly love about your girlfriend/fiancée/wife?” The 500 responses were enlightening — ranging from cute and adorable to crass and, let’s just say, less adorable.
The answers were pretty evenly divided in to two categories: emotional and physical. Here are the responses that came up again and again.
1. Her smiling and laughing at my good (or not-so-good) attempts at humor.
Echoing many similar comments, one guy confessed, “The way she laughs at my dumb jokes, she always manages to put a smile on my face.” Another wrote, “When I say something funny, I love seeing her smile and the way she laughs and giggles. Makes me wanna kiss her every time.”
2. Catching her looking at me in a loving way.
One man wrote, “When she looks at me and I catch her and she looks away really quick. Makes me melt and feel so wanted.” Seeing a girlfriend or wife secretly giving adoring looks was a definite turn-on for men, with one writing, “Her loving look toward me when she doesn’t know I see her is simply the best.”