Former beauty queen, Dabota Lawson has taken to her Instagram to advise all those in a relationship that ‘it is ok not to forgive when your partner cheat on you.
The ex-beauty queen wrote;
“Being cheated on is an awful feeling, but how you handle it can have a big part in your recovery process. Whether you try to rebuild the relationship or you decide to end things.
Here are some ways you can deal with the SITUATION;
1 Decide if you want to re-establish trust.
You may also need to ask yourself these questions • Is your partner truly sorry? • Has this sort of behavior happened before, or has he or she promised to not do it, and it has continued or gotten worse? • Is your partner willing to take steps to mend the relationship such as counseling. • Do you truly feel you want to trust this person again? There is no right or wrong answer for this. This is entirely up to the person who has been cheated on.
It’s also important to Understand the nature of your partner’s cheating. People cheat for many different reasons and it is not always about sex. Sometimes people cheat because they are seeking an emotional connection
Request that your partner cut off all communication with the third party.
If your partner is unwilling to cut off contact with the third party, it may be a sign that they are unwilling to stop cheating. In this case, you may not be able to repair the relationship.
Forgive on your own terms. Your partner may be extremely apologetic and desperate for you to say that you forgive them, right then and there. But true forgiveness and healing will likely take time.
Lastly , It is OK to not forgive. Cheating is a deep wound, and sometimes is fatal to a relationship. How did you deal with a cheating partner ?”.