Sacrifice and Love

“I guess that’s just part of loving people: You have to give things up. Sometimes you even have to give them up.”
— Lauren Oliver, Delirium (Delirium, #1)

Without Sacrifice, there is no love. Sacrifice shows how much you love someone, it tells your partner in clear terms the intensity of your love. You may be sacrificing as much as moving from one state to another just to be with your partner to the littlest as watching your worst TV program with your partner because s/he likes it. Whatever the case, sacrifice deepens your relationship with your partner.

Sacrifice is not changing who you are to suit your partner’s taste. Sacrifice entails you sacrifice something dear to your heart so that your partner is happy and for the growth of your relationship. Sacrifice is key part of relationship, you must be able the sacrifice important things like Time. Time is so important yet people fail to sacrifice time for their partners, “He will understand” seems to be their mantra. They forget that their partners have feelings and loneliness can creep in at any time, asides that their partners might crave their presence. Never deprive your partner of quality together time. Also learn to sacrifice your priorities, this doesn’t necessarily mean that you shouldn’t look after yourself but it means you be ready to make certain sacrifices for your partner, like giving him the money you set aside for a new dress to get those important tools he needs for his business. Once you are committed to a relationship, be ready to sacrifice some dear to help your partner and help your relationship grow. Though for a huge sacrifice, like moving to a foreign country to live with your partner, you can try to reach a comprise but do not hesitate, after considering the odds, to make that sacrifice.

Sacrifice is however useless if your partner can’t do the same. If your partner feels it’s his or her right for you to make what you feel it’s a sacrifice then it is a huge problem. That is why no matter how much you love someone you must first consider whether this person is worth the trouble. You should ask yourself important questions like “Can I marry this person? “, “Can he or she do the same?” or “Will this sacrifice be counter productive? “. Some of the answers to the questions lies with your partner, you should try to remember whether your partner has sacrificed something of the magnitude in the past before. If your partner gets a new job in another state, does she think of sacrificing the job to be with you before you consider moving with her. Your partner must be someone that sacrifice for you even tables were turned. It is also important to let your partner know that what you are about to do, is a sacrifice, you don’t go rubbing it in your partner’s face but you tell him or her, so s/he will know how the gravity of what you did. Also you should sacrifice be “approach motivated” not “avoidance motivated” because if it is approach motivated it shows you making sacrifice because you want to make your partner happy not because you want to avoid a fight because you don’t like the idea. On a long run, your motivation will determine the fate of your relationship.

A relationship without sacrifice is not meaningless. Sacrifice shows the true kind of relationship you have with your partner. This has been Relationship Corner with Eddie Schwaggs