A true relationship is when you can tell each other anything and everything. No secrets and no lies.
One of the strongest pillars of any relationship is trust, without trust, a relationship will hang by a strand. Any relationship built on deception, is doomed to fail before its inception. Most times, people lie to cover up something, for instance you tell your boyfriend you went for choir rehearsals whereas truth to be told, you were hanging with a friend your boyfriend doesn’t like or telling your girlfriend you are going for a meeting but instead you go see your side chick, these and other lies damage your relationship. White lies too also are dangerous, in fact they are like training your ability to lie to your partner in Nursery school and when the need arises you graduate to bigger and dirtier lies.
Lying doesn’t only entail not telling your lover the truth, it is also entail telling half truths, exaggerating, minimizing and withholding information that are important to both you and your partner and which help your relationship grow and your personality too. Though it’s not right to offload all your information on your partner on the first or even second date, it’s imperative that with time, gradually, you let your partner in on who you really are under the finesse. You should reveal your true self, vulnerable and all. Most people find it difficult to feel vulnerable around their partners for the fear that their partners are capable of hurting them the most but vulnerability is an essential factor that makes a relationship grow beautifully.
Mere lies as you may call it, ruin relationships faster than cheating and money issues. If you have been lying to your lover about certain things and certain areas of your life, you should be first all of be genuinely sorry that you have been lying to your lover, then forgive yourself then prepare yourself for your partner’s reactions then you tell him or her. It’s better for you to tell your partner that you lied to him or her than your lover finding out or hearing it from someone else. It’s also better to tell the truth as early as possible because the longer the lie takes the more it’s going to hurt when he or she finds out. Finally no relationship built on deception will last, always build your relationship on trust and the truth. This has been Relationship Corner with Eddie Schwaggs