“One day, I caught myself smiling without no reason, then I realized I was thinking of you”
To be content with that special one, is the very first reason why we agree to be in a relationship with that person. Even though you are in love with that person, you want to be sure whether that person will keep you happy and satisfied most of the time. To be contented in a relationship, is to be happy in that relationship not just comfortable.
It is not bad thing to be comfortable in your relationship but it’s becomes when you are just plain comfortable and not happy. Being comfortable means, you are in the relationship because of the fun of it, you don’t feel the bolts of electricity when your partner touch you, or the see the fireworks when you guys kiss. When your romantic life is dead and you are not complaining, you are comfortable in the relationship and the only the reason why you are still in it, it’s because you are scared due to various reasons and because of the reasons your relationship is suffering.
To be contented in a relationship is essential for the growth of your relationship and it starts with you. If you want your relationship to be fruitful, to blossom, to be blissful, you have to be first contented and that starts with you. You have to be first happy and satisfied with yourself. Love your dark and good parts, learn that you are human and you are capable of mistakes, so forgive yourself, trust yourself and make peace with yourself, only in that will you begin to be contented in your relationship.
For a relationship to strive, balance is key. Your relationship shouldn’t be a give take relationship but it should be the type that involves both of you giving your all to the relationship. This means that you shouldnt be afraid of sharing your views and opinions on various issues cause you want to avoid disagreements or quarrels. When couples fight the right way, it helps their relationship immensely, so dont instead of keeping quiet about things that your partner do to offend you and storing anger, let it out and save your relationship from crashing later due to pent up anger. Also dont always agree to everything your partner says especially when it’s not ok with you, learn to say no. Saying no doesnt mean you dont love your partner, learning to say no, shows that you love and respect yourself.
Finally, for you and your partner to be contented in a relationship, you both have to learn to have lower expectation for each other, also find ways to talk about hard things, this helps you both grow together. Learn to accept reality and know that nothing is perfect and you both aren’t. You both need to work for your relationship to be successful. All these will help you and your lover be contented and deepen your connection.