“If it’s true that men and women can be ‘just friends’ then how come all cheaters first start out as ‘just friends?”
— Oliver Markus Malloy
Cheating is one of the most popular reason why relationships break, it has become so rampant that it has become a norm. Though some couples grow stronger after cheating had occurred, 90% of relationships that has experience cheating ends in breakup. Relationship is built on trust, commitment, emotional connection, and so many things, cheating disrupts and destroys all these. Many people don’t want to cheat on their special one but they don’t know how to resist the temptation or they cheat in their moment of weakness. Some many factors lead people to cheat, like their partners not showing them love or giving them attention, or maybe their partner can’t satisfy them in bed, or probably they are still angry at their partner, or to boost their self esteem, whatever the reason, cheating leaves them in regret and more anger.
Cheating can be avoided, you have to tell yourself that you don’t want to cheat on your partner and work on that. Not putting yourself in compromising positions too can be of help to your course. There are times that it is hard not to fall for that new person who is wooing you, especially when your relationship is hitting the rocks but the strength of your will not to cheat will be the strongest reason not to cheat. If you love your partner with all your heart but there is that girl showering you with attention or affection and you are becoming tempted to cheat because she is everywhere or there is that hot and sexy guy that has declared how much he loves you and how he can die for you and his declaration is affecting you, here are tips to help you stop your self from cheating.
1. Stay Strong willed
The first step and the most important is that you must be determined not to cheat on your partner. With that conviction, you will always try to avoid compromising positions, not lead people on, be careful of who you hang out with and where you hang out. Stay true to your partner no matter the place your relationship is, at any time.
2. Avoid the person
Most times, for people who don’t want to genuinely cheat on their partner, the source of their temptation is one particular person, maybe a co-worker or a family friend or your partner’s friend, someone who you see most of the time and interact with. The best and the most obvious way to avoid cheating, is to avoid the person as much as you can, even though it’s not easy. Try as much as possible not to be in comprising positions with that person.
3. Tell your Partner
Tell your partner about your new attraction to someone else. Though this may be difficult, it will help you curtail the attraction and you and your partner can work together to avoid the person in question and also fix the problems in your relationship that led you to nurse those thoughts in the first place. Anytime the person comes around, you will always have it at the back of your mind, that your partner knows and he or she might be watching and this will help you not to cheat. Also spend more time with your partner, do things together, challenging and also fun things too.
4. Think about the consequences
Think about it carefully, what will happen to your girlfriend, how will she feel? What will happen to your friends and family, will they be happy with you or will you lose their respect? What of your kids if you have any, what will they think of their mother when they hear she cheated? Think of the consequences of the actions.
5. Work on your relationship
Most times, when people cheat, they do so because there is something lacking in their relationship. Work on your relationship, if your sexual life is boring, spice it up, do things together, understand who your partner is, be better boyfriend or girlfriend or wife or husband. Be too busy and too occupied with fixing your relationship that you won’t have time to think of someone else.
6. Don’t ever compare
Your partner is unique and amazing, don’t compare your man to that guy with chiseled abs because he might have big chest and arms but small brains, or don’t compare him to that smart business guy because that guy might be smart but doesn’t know how to treat you right. Don’t compare her to that Miss World, because what she lacks in beauty, she might have in character. Love your partner for who he or she is and accept that person that he or she is.
7. Work on yourself
Work on yourself, work on your commitment to your partner, work on your persona, become a better version of your self, help your partner grow too and always be contented with who you are and your partner is. No matter how fun and exciting the sex is, it will not be fulfilling as a relationship with your partner is, stay faithful to your partner.
Cheating destroys everything you labored for in your relationship, it tears your relationship apart and breaks you too, avoid cheating. Stay faithful to your partner. This has been Relationship Corner with Eddie Schwaggs.