Toke Makinwa, a media figure, has stated that Nigerian men define a strong woman as “long-suffering, emotional abuse, and a high tolerance of accepting terrible behavior.”
Toke expressed this sentiment on Twitter this evening. She had written:
”Nigerian men’s definition of a strong woman is long-suffering, emotional abuse, and a high tolerance of accepting bad behavior. You’ll hear them say “she turned the boy in me into a man”, which means her name is endurance, the woman has endured.
Society encourages that sort of narrative, women are seen as strong by the amount of BS she has to endure till the man was ready to give them peace.
When they meet the women who stand up for themselves? Society labels them as wayward and too opinionated. Who is Society again?
They automatically think being alone at a certain age means you are miserable. Would you not rather be 55 and alone than endure BS with someone? If that’s the definition of miserable, a beg which one will you rather be?”