Take your wife as your first daughter not as your mate – Pastor Chris Oyakhilome tells men

In a viral video, Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, a well-known preacher and televangelist, shared his belief that men should view their wives as their first daughters and not just as their partners.

During a sermon to his followers, Pastor Chris Oyakhilome emphasized the importance of seeing wives in this light.

Chris Oyakhilome explained that when a man sees his wife as his equal, he may feel disappointed or frustrated when she falls short of expectations. However, if he views her as his daughter, he is more likely to be patient, understanding, and forgiving towards her actions.

Pastor Chris Oyakhilome said in part…

“Take your wife as your first daughter, more than as your mate. If you take her as your mate you will be offended at the things she does because you expect more from her. If you take her as your daughter, you will be gracious and you will overlook all the nonsense.”

"Take your wife as your first daughter, not as your mate"

– Pastor Chris Oyakhilome pic.twitter.com/eFKvQhmrxp

— Dami’ Adenuga (@DAMIADENUGA) March 29, 2025

See reactions below;

@sirjokesinfo said: “Man of God, so if we want to sleep with her at night, should I still think of her as my daughter? Or Mother. Asking for my best friend.”

@SemiNigerian wrote: “In the real sense, what he said makes so much sense. Because if you see her as a mate, una go dey fight taya”

@AJwealth7 commented: “This works hand in hand though 😂”

@kingRoye wrote: “All those saying he’s a divorcee, so he can’t teach about marriage

I hope you don’t read Paul’s message on marriage because he never married. Or Jesus’s messages on sin because he never sinned. You’re all hypocrites and liars judging men of God as if they’re not humans like you.”

@johnnyblaze_404 wrote: “Wetin Bible talk, dey for black and white. Wetin religious men and motivational speakers dey talk, u go just wonder which side of the Bible them read. Revelation 22:19,20 talk say: no add and no subtract! E get why!”