A Ghanaian actress and TV host, Joselyn Dumas candidly acknowledges the challenges single mothers experience when reentering the dating world.
Joselyn Dumas recently posted a personal story on her YouTube channel about a friend who was hesitant to date a lady with a child.
He was concerned about taking on parental responsibilities for a youngster who was not his biological child.
Dumas argued that this perspective contributes to the difficulties many single moms suffer in seeking love partners, as they frequently encounter biases based on their parental status.
In her words:
“We have our kids as single mothers but we still want to be happy. We still want to date other people.
“Let me tell you why we don’t go out and marry. I spoke to a friend of mine here, Anthony. He said, ‘Me, I will never be with a born one’.
“His reason was, ‘Why would I come and raise somebody else’s child? That’s not my bloodline. He doesn’t have any trace of my DNA in him. Why am I going to now help someone’s bloodline grow? What about mine?’
“And I said to myself that this is the reason why a lot of single mothers are single with their children,” he said.
She also raised a question about the contrasting attitudes towards adoption, implying that nurturing a non-biological child should not be perceived differently.
“I asked him, ‘What about adoption?’ And he said that’s different. But if you ask me, it’s not that different,” she said.
The actress underscored that single mothers often raise their children solo out of obligation and need, not out of a desire for a solitary life.
