Yomi Fabiyi, a well-known actor, argues that domestic abuse is a valid justification for ending a marriage.
He expresses his concern over the absence of proper guidance and mentorship from parents who prioritize social media over spending time with their children.
Fabiyi’s remarks were prompted by a viral video showing a lawyer named Ekere Ebong from Akwa Ibom brutally mistreating his wife at night.
Fabiyi believes that many parents nowadays prioritize their online presence over properly parenting their children, leading to a lack of discipline among the younger generation.
He strongly condemns the act of husbands assaulting their wives, finding it repulsive, and advises women not to forgive their partners in such situations.
Yomi Fabiyi said:
“Marriage is not for everybody. Only a few have gone through proper home training lately. Most parents are on social media than in the lives of their children and teenagers. These wards, too, are on several toxic and criminal blogs every minute they are awake.
“These blogs raise and mentor these kids. The percentage you invest in raising your child will be commensurate to how you benefit from the same child. Say no to domestic violence.”
“As for me, it is only when you physically assault your partner, particularly a man beating a woman you lay with that I will suggest immediate separation.
“Beating your lover turns me off. I have never begged a woman whose husband or fiance beats to reconcile. It’s not my thing. I don’t fancy such men (even though most claim they got provoked). Hear me out. My reasons include:
“First, you don’t hurt what you love. Secondly, the easiest way to find yourself in body bags is through domestic violence with partners. Thirdly, if kids are involved, it will destroy them. It is a serious abuse.
“Only a small fraction of such children will grow not to believe violence, torture, etc, are means of solving issues. Fourth, even if you are not caught, your hands will be stained with blood, and you are a murderer if you fight/beat to death.
“I would rather prefer you involve the Police immediately if you think your wife or girlfriend exhibits traces of violence or provoking you to turn violent. Self-control is key. Anger is controllable. Just act lawfully before you become a criminal. Don’t give that partner the chance to provoke you so that you turn into a beast or woman beater.
“If you indulge in violence and think involving the police is extreme, the moment you start trying to defend yourself and things go south, then you will realise the police will involve you, prison will embrace you and the very people you are considering will turn their back on you.
“Violence will never produce love. Most lovers who make up after violence are hoodwinked, motivated, or controlled by something else but not love. Love, don’t stay where it is tolerated. Love, don’t grow where it hurts.”