Joro Olumofin, a renowned relationship expert, has shed light on the reasons why cheating is perceived as a sign of success and a boost to the ego among Nigerian men.
According to Olumofin, having multiple girlfriends during high school gives the impression that a young boy is a rebellious and daring individual. This mindset often persists into college, where a man with four girlfriends can be admired and deemed as the ideal partner.
Interestingly, Olumofin reveals that certain universities even go to the extent of awarding medals to individuals who are considered the ‘ladies man of the year.’ This further fuels the notion that having multiple partners is an accomplishment to be celebrated.
Furthermore, Olumofin explains that even after getting married, a man who continues to have side girlfriends may find himself being showered with praise by his friends, viewing him as a symbol of virility and masculinity.
He attributes these attitudes and behaviors to deeply ingrained thought patterns that are established during childhood and subsequently influence a man’s approach to commitment.
In his words: “Cheating is a sign of Success, Stamina, and an Ego Boost for Nigerian men. In Secondary School if a Boy has 3 girlfriends he’s a ” Bed Guy ” his friends will laud him In University if a guy has 4 girlfriends he’s a “correct Guy” – His friends will hail him -Some universities even give awards “Ladies man of the Year” to acknowledge him. As a married man if he has 3 Side cheks. His friends will call him “Idan, Stallion, Rambo” This behavior has been imprinted in his cognition throughout his childhood. When it’s time to commit to 1 woman it becomes difficult. Men who are loyal to 1 woman are referred to as Mumu in Nigeria.”
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