Reality TV star Queen Mercy has publicly disagreed with popular Lagos pastor, Kingsley Okonkwo, founder of David’s Christian Centre, over his recent teaching that men are not biblically mandated to support women.
The clergyman’s sermon, which argued that the expectation for men to be sole providers is more cultural than scriptural, has stirred heated debate online.
Reacting in a lengthy note, Queen Mercy respectfully but firmly opposed his stance.
She wrote:
“Dear Pastor Kingsley, I truly appreciate and love your ministry. I regularly listen to your marriage sermons, and they have been a tremendous blessing to me. However, I respectfully disagree with you on this. The Bible clearly states that the man is the head of his wife (Ephesians 5:23, 1 Corinthians 11:3), and the woman is his helpmeet (Genesis 2:18). A helper is meant to support, not to carry the entire burden.”
According to her, such teachings risk encouraging men to shirk their “God-given” responsibilities in the home, especially at a time when many women are already taking on provider roles.
She added:
“To me, this is quite self-explanatory. By putting this message out, it seems you may be encouraging a shift where men feel less obligated to provide. While your intention may not be to promote that imbalance, such messages can inadvertently reinforce it. With love and respect.”
The exchange triggered diverse reactions on social media:
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@dovies_naturals: “Men just want to be princesses, that’s all.”
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@ultimatecakesncatering: “A man provides doesn’t mean you should be a liability and not contribute to the running of your home.”
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@tastyboxng: “Pastor Kingsley is actually speaking with the woman’s best interest at heart. Depending solely on a man’s income can breed disrespect, frustration and resentment.”
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@iam_2simple: “A traditional man should meet a traditional woman, and a 50/50 man should meet a 50/50 woman. As for me, I will fully provide and put my wife on direct debit monthly salary.”
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@funmi_ilashe_beach: “Yes, he is a pastor but not everything he says is 100% accurate and true. Know that and know peace.”
While the debate continues, many users agreed that how couples share financial responsibilities ultimately depends on individual circumstances, values, and mutual understanding.
