Nigerian rapper Speed Darlington has sparked controversy after advising men not to let their spouses earn more than they do during a recent episode of The Honest Bunch podcast.
According to Darlington, women who earn more than their partners are unlikely to be submissive in a relationship. He argued that wealthy women may feign submission to secure marriage but, in reality, cannot fully defer to their husbands.
“You cannot tell me that a woman that is worth multi millions will be submissive to her husband. I don’t believe that. Power does not like to submit,” he said.
“I am not very rich, but I am still proud of the little I have. Now, imagine a wealthy woman who has a house in Lagos and in the village; she definitely can’t be submissive. She can say that to just get married, but deep down, she will never be submissive.”
Darlington, who has never been married, urged men to ensure they earn more than their partners to prevent conflicts in relationships and marriages.
“There will be issues if your woman makes more money than you as a man. It is going to be a problem. Try your best as a man to not allow your woman to be richer than you. If she does, she will be aggressive and never be submissive,” he claimed.
He added that he prefers women who are submissive and supportive rather than rich and independent.
According to the rapper, a submissive woman supports her man, whereas a wealthy and independent partner may compete with him.
The remarks have generated debate on social media, with critics calling his views outdated and sexist, while some supporters defended his perspective on traditional gender roles in relationships.
“You cannot tell me that a woman that’s worth multi millions will be submissive to her husband, I no believe am. Power does not like to submit, she can say that to just get married but deep down, she’ll never be submissive” – speed Darlington pic.twitter.com/WWhqJicS12
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