Tolani Shobajo, better known as Tolanibaj, is thinking about her future in a way that many Nigerian women in their thirties think about privately but rarely say out loud.
The BBNaija Lockdown housemate and DJ opened up in a recent vlog about her plans to freeze her eggs, framing the decision around one idea that cuts straight through: she would rather have options than regrets.
The 32-year-old was clear that the procedure isn’t happening tomorrow. She told her viewers she isn’t doing it right now but plans to go through with it within the next year or two.
What she has already done is take the first practical step: booking an appointment with her gynecologist at a wellness centre to better understand what the process entails before committing to it.
“I realised that I needed more information about the process,” she explained, describing the consultation as a way of going in with clarity rather than anxiety.
It’s a grounded approach to a topic that Nigerian popular culture hasn’t always made space for. The conversation around fertility here tends to move in one direction: marriage first, children soon after, and anything that doesn’t follow that timeline gets treated as a problem to explain rather than a choice to respect.
Tolanibaj isn’t positioning herself against any of that. She’s simply acknowledging that life doesn’t always sync up with biological clocks on anyone’s preferred schedule, and that having a backup is smarter than pretending the clock isn’t ticking.
The global data backs the growing interest. Demand for egg freezing has been climbing steadily as more women delay parenthood, whether for career reasons, financial stability, or not having found the right partner yet.
What was once primarily a medical intervention for women facing chemotherapy has become a serious fertility planning tool for healthy women in their late twenties and thirties. Cost remains a barrier for many, but for those with access, it offers something genuinely valuable: time.
Tolanibaj has been unusually open about her personal life compared to many of her peers in the Nigerian entertainment space. She has previously spoken about her complicated feelings around marriage, once saying she would only want it if it meant she could finally rest, a comment that sparked its own conversation.
She has also spoken about returning to Nigeria from the US and navigating the transition for her career as a DJ and content creator. Across it all, she presents as someone who thinks carefully about the life she actually wants rather than the one expected of her.
Her egg freezing announcement fits that pattern. It’s not dramatic, not rebellious, just a woman in her early thirties doing research, talking to her doctor, and making informed decisions about her own body and future.
The fact that it feels notable says more about how rarely these conversations happen publicly in Nigeria than it does about anything Tolanibaj herself has done.
