Veteran actress Ayo Mogaji recently spoke out, encouraging women over the age of 35 to prioritize motherhood, even if they are not married.
During an interview with Oyinmomo TV, the 60-year-old actress discussed societal expectations, marriage, and the importance of becoming a mother.
Having welcomed her first child at the age of 40, Ayo Mogaji advised unmarried women over 35 to consider having children with a partner, even if marriage is not currently on the horizon.
She emphasized that women should not let societal norms dictate their decisions and should pursue motherhood regardless of their relationship status.
Ayo Mogaji urged women in similar situations to take control of their own destinies and not rely solely on a man’s willingness to take responsibility for a child.
“For women who are 35 or older and do not have a husband, but are in a relationship with someone who is not ready for marriage but willing to have a child, they should not hesitate to have a child, even if the man won’t take responsibility.”
Drawing from her personal experiences, Ayo Mogaji spoke about the societal pressures she faced.
She eventually married UK-based physiotherapist Victor Oduleye in 2006 after enduring 13 years of emotional abuse in a previous relationship.
Reflecting on these experiences, she stressed the importance of prioritising personal happiness and fulfillment over societal expectations.
The actress also touched on the challenges faced by older women seeking marriage, suggesting that age can sometimes be a barrier in finding a husband.
She emphasised that women should focus on building their families instead of waiting for marriage to fulfill their desire for children. Ayo Mogaji added:
“At 35, many women are told they are too old to be a suitable wife, and often face the stigma of being unable to conform to traditional expectations.
“Even if they marry later, they may already be old by the time their children grow up, while their peers are becoming grandmothers.”
Ayo Mogaji encouraged women to seize the opportunity for motherhood when it presents itself, either through pregnancy or adoption rather than allowing societal norms to dictate their choices. She advised:
“If you meet someone you like and both of you are ready to have a child, go ahead and do it.”
“If no such opportunity arises, adoption is always an option for women who desire to become mothers.”
