Nigerian filmmaker Chinney Love has challenged the common belief that firstborn children are naturally responsible and caring, arguing that some have become the source of pain and division within their families.
The filmmaker said while society often celebrates firstborns for their leadership and sense of responsibility, there are also those whose actions have left lasting emotional scars on their relatives.
Sharing her thoughts on social media, Chinney said not every firstborn deserves praise, describing some as manipulative, narcissistic and destructive.
“Not all firstborns are Monica (Good people). Some are dividers, destroyers, narcissists, bullies, and all-around really horrible people.”
According to her, the experiences of families who have lived with such individuals are rarely discussed or portrayed.
The filmmaker explained that storytelling should reflect every aspect of human experience, including difficult family dynamics that many people often keep private.
She believes the time has come to tell stories about firstborns whose behaviour has negatively affected their families.
“One day the story will be televised! After all, that’s what film is all about. To mirror life. We have told too many stories about the good ones (shout-out to them), but it’s time to highlight the stories about the really evil ones!”
Alongside her comments, Chinney also appealed to anyone living in Boston, Massachusetts, or anyone who knows someone there to contact her directly.
“Meanwhile, if you live in Boston, Massachusetts (USA) or know anyone living in Boston, send me a DM.”
Although she did not explain the reason for the request, it sparked curiosity among her followers.
Chinney Love’s remarks have generated mixed reactions on social media, with some users agreeing that family roles should not automatically determine how people are perceived. In contrast, others argued that personality and upbringing—not birth order—shape an individual’s character.
Her comments add to the ongoing conversation about family expectations, sibling relationships, and the stereotypes often associated with firstborn children.