Temmie Ovwasa, a Nigerian musician, has detailed how she was reportedly sexually molested by her stepfather from the age of 11 to 17.
The singer revealed that she had long wanted to tell the story but had been waiting for her mother to pass away because she didn’t want her to face the disgrace.
Temmie claims that her stepfather told her about the atrocities in a dairy that her mother discovered, but she stayed in the marriage anyhow.
The singer, who confessed that her mother is a pastor, expressed her love for her but also indicated that she cannot trust her. Temmie also stated that she will not attend her mother’s burial, but that she does not despise her because the system fails to provide for women like her.
She had written:
In the spirit of exposing my stepfather as a sexual predator, I want to make it obvious that I do not believe in the judicial system, so if you’ve sexually harmed me, watch your backs.
I’ve always wanted to tell this tale, but I’ve been waiting for my Mother to pass away because I didn’t want her to have to endure the shame, but it’s 2022 angels, and in the spirit of launching my new project where I talk about some of my experiences, I’ll start with this.
From the age of 11 to 17, I was sexually molested by my stepfather, who grabbed me and wrote about it in his diary, which my mother discovered. My mother was the first person to declare me mentally ill after I told her a story (which is why you idiot online trolls don’t bother me).
When my mother found out, she stated it was “only anal,” according to his diary, meaning it wasn’t such a big issue because I hadn’t been “penetrated.” I know exactly what a predator looks like, thinks like, and that they never believe they’ve done anything wrong.
This began a pattern in my life in which people labeled me as mentally ill, insane, or miserable because I was actually cutting myself for years, in and out of psychosis, and the best part was that whenever I expressed an opinion about what her husband did, my mother would say it was psychosis.
No, I’m only sharing you this tale because I’m in a better place and I don’t want your sympathy or support; many of you are just as bad. My mother is a pastor, and she believes in God with all of her heart; she’s a wonderful person, and I adore her.
But I don’t trust the woman who gave birth to me; despite the fact that I haven’t been home in almost ten years, she has stayed with her husband. Oluwa Yemisi, I love you, but your other children will bury you; I will not attend your burial.
And the reason I don’t necessarily despise her is that I understand the system provides women like her nothing, that she is nothing without her husband, that I see women like her every day, sacrificing their peace for no good guys, but a child is too great a price to pay for a man who isn’t crap.
Anyway, I’ve always wanted to get this off my chest; he’s not the only person who’s done this to me, but he’s the only one I still have to deal with, and I’m not going to let it go on. Nigerians are evil, as everyone who has dealt with mental health difficulties knows.
I’ve been in a lot of situations where people have used my mental illness as an excuse to abuse me, and I’ve seen people treat me like shit when I was at my lowest and most psychotic, which is why I carry myself like God; I’ve been to hell and back.
She inquired as to why I had never confronted him if I wasn’t lying, so I did so last year; did she believe me? Nooo Yoruba ladies are willing to die for a man biko.