Solomon Buchi, a well-known and frequently controversial writer and relationship specialist, recently revealed on Twitter that sometimes people claim “it can never be me” until something unexpected happens to them.
Buchi’s tweet underscores the widespread tendency for people to declare, “I can never take this in life” or “I’ll never take this in marriage,” only to find themselves in the very conditions they previously strongly rejected. He believes that life has a tendency of guiding us down roads we never wanted to take and putting us in situations we never expected.
Importantly, Buchi does not encourage for people to seek out or wish for terrible occurrences in their lives. Instead, he promotes humility and understanding in the face of tragic events.
Buchi also discusses the concept of gray regions in life. He emphasizes that there are gray regions in life, as opposed to the black and white we are accustomed to. Life, he observes, may be far from simple, and it can occasionally push people to confront situations they never expected to face.
Buchi contends that as people age, they get a greater knowledge of this truth. With age, the unanticipated obstacles of life can become clearer, leading to a more understanding perspective on one’s own and other people’s lives.
I’ll tell you this: anyone who’s always saying “I’ll never take this in life.” “1’ll never take this in marriage”, “it can’t be me.” People like this, in most cases, end up in such situations. My dear, you’ll take it, and it will be you. Life will squeeze out humility from you. I’m not asking anyone to wish themselves evil. However, when you see evil happen, humbly understand that it could be you, but it wasn’t you. Humbly pray that you don’t find yourself in such mess. Humbly understand that you’re not better than who it happened to.
When the rigid man eventually falls into their unimaginable realities, they break. It breaks them, because it’s more than them, it’s their ego. “How could it be me?” “But I’m better than that person it happened to?” This is ego, and though difficult to tame, it’s profitable to.“