Popular beauty entrepreneur and influencer Laura Ikeji Kanu has sparked a heated conversation online after questioning how women in physically abusive relationships remain sexually involved with their abusers.
Taking to her Instagram page, Laura — who revealed she studied psychology — expressed deep concern over women who continue to engage in intimacy with partners who frequently beat or assault them, whether in marriage or romantic relationships.
“I have been wanting to know. Women in domestic violent marriages, women who are often beaten by their husbands, spouses or boyfriends, how do you guys do it?” she asked.
“How do you guys have sex with this man after they had beaten you guys? How do you let them touch you? How do you do it? They beat you up and the following month you are pregnant.”
The mother of two and sister to celebrity blogger Linda Ikeji clarified that her question came from a place of curiosity and concern, not judgment.
“I have been wanting to ask this question for a long, long time. How do you let a man who beat you often have sex with you?”
A Bold Question, a Painful Reality
Laura’s comments have drawn mixed reactions. While some praised her for shedding light on the painful reality of domestic abuse, others argued that the issue is far more complex, often involving emotional manipulation, fear, trauma bonding, and financial dependence.
Many experts say women in abusive relationships often feel trapped due to societal pressure, children, or lack of support systems — making it difficult to leave, let alone resist intimacy with their abuser.
If You’re in an Abusive Relationship…
No one deserves to be abused — emotionally, physically, or sexually. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence in Nigeria, please consider seeking help from:
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WARIF (Women at Risk International Foundation) – 0809 210 0009
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Mirabel Centre – 0815 210 0009
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Or contact the nearest domestic violence shelter or human rights organization.
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