Nigerian media personality and former Big Brother Naija housemate Uriel Oputa has sparked intense online debate after speaking candidly about self-reliance, relationship dynamics, and the dangers of overdependence on men for basic needs.
Her Instagram Story rant, which has since gone viral, calls on women to reevaluate their sense of entitlement and embrace financial independence, no matter how little they earn.
Calling Out Unqualified Relationship Advisors
Uriel didn’t mince words as she addressed the growing trend of unqualified individuals dishing out relationship advice online. She particularly referenced controversial commentator Reno Omokri, saying:
“We now have people like what’s-his-name, Reno, giving marriage advice. In this Nigeria! People who shouldn’t even be talking about relationships are now relationship coaches.”
Her frustration reflects a larger concern among many Nigerians about the credibility of online voices influencing relationship norms and gender roles.
The Real Advice: Start With Yourself
Uriel’s core message was clear—financial independence is non-negotiable. She urged women to prioritize earning their own money, even if it’s as little as ₦40,000 a month, to cover their basic needs like sanitary pads, deodorants, and other personal essentials.
“The moment you enter the stage where your man is buying you sanitary pads every month, disrespect is not far behind. It’s coming.”
According to her, relying on a man for such intimate, recurring needs can lead to subtle forms of control and eventual disrespect.
Challenging the Culture of Entitlement
The most controversial part of Uriel’s message was her discussion of entitlement in relationships.
She questioned why some women feel it’s a man’s duty to cater to their every need—even their menstrual cycle.
“Pls what were you doing before him? 6 months tops he’s looking for another girl. Men dey tire easy with this rubbish. Why are we so entitled? Even with our own cycle?”
Her words have divided opinions online. While some see it as tough love and a wake-up call for women to be more responsible and less dependent, others argue that her tone dismisses the realities many Nigerian women face.
Mixed Reactions from Social Media
As expected, Uriel’s comments have triggered mixed reactions. Supporters applaud her for promoting female empowerment and independence in a society where financial dependence often translates to emotional vulnerability.
Critics, however, feel her message lacked empathy and didn’t account for women who genuinely need support.
Final Thoughts
Uriel Oputa’s bold take on relationships, self-worth, and independence shines a spotlight on a larger conversation: the balance between love and self-sufficiency.
In a time of evolving relationship dynamics and challenging traditional gender roles, her message reminds us that self-reliance remains a crucial form of empowerment.
Whether you agree with her or not, one thing is certain—Uriel has once again stirred necessary conversations, pushing women to reflect on their worth beyond what a man can offer.
